Passive-Aggressive behaviour is defined as;
“the indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, hostile jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible.”
Some examples of Passive-Aggressive behaviours are;
1. The demands of others insult them.
They view the demands or even requests of others as insulting and tend to resent them. They will bottle these feelings up and ultimately resent the person for them, when all that needed to be done was have a conversation.
2. Premeditated Procrastination
Making a conscious decision to put things off. Pushing them until the very last minute, and ‘punishing’ the person who made the request.
3. Calculated Mistakes
Doing something so poorly, that they will not be asked again.
4. The Silent Treatment
Disconnect between what’s being said, and what’s being done. Silence usually signifies agreement, but not in this case.
They answer the question of, “What’s Wrong?” with, “Nothing” or simply do not answer you.
5. Always the victim
No matter what it is, it’ll always be a injustice to them. They view themselves as Saintly.
6. Cold Shoulder
They might think they’re being subtle, but they’re not.
7. Communicating… or lack there of
Notes, Txt, Facebook, Twitter, Blog etc. They would rather send you a snide comment or write about what’s got them pissed, rather than talk to you face to face about it.
Passive Aggressive people find others who enable them to do so.
Don’t be that kind of person.
I’ve had many people like this in my life, and up until recently was a complete enabler.
I’m not proud to say it, but I got screwed over many a time by people who I ‘thought’ were my friends.
I never followed through with setting limits with them, or assertive communication to get my points across. Being Passive-aggressive to yourself or others you care about is only self-sabotage. When you find yourself resorting to the above mentioned behaviours, Confront it.
Figure out who you are, and what You want, not someone else.